I know that everyone everywhere has had to deal with someone talking about you behind your back. It is frustrating to say the very least.

I know that I try to live my life in such a way that I never have to be ashamed of what I have said or done. I will admit that I do not always succeed, but I try hard. It is completely heart breaking to me when I hear from someone else that there is another person who is talking bad about me or my family. Unfortunately for some, I do have the flaw of holding a grudge. In my defense, I don’t really think of it that way though. I think of it more as me not giving someone a second chance to hurt me.

My advice for those of you affected by these harmful people who like to talk a good game behind your back…Let them. I have found that the people who do things like this are generally unhappy people who find their little bit of joy by bringing others down. It is easier to ignore when the people doing the talking are people who have no real impact in your life.  However, when you find that people close to you and in your life in a major way are talking behind your back, it is a little more difficult to let go.

So how do you ignore people trying to bring you down?  My advice is to know your own truth!  Live your life in a way that you know without question that you did and said nothing that would give anyone ammunition to bring you down.  You might not always be able to say you succeeded in living without insulting or hurting someone else, but at least you can know in your heart that you have tried your best.

My advice to others who might listen to someone else’s negativity about others…take the words with a grain of salt.  The person sharing the negativity most likely has an agenda.  You might want to make sure what that agenda is before you participate.  It might also be prudent that you think about what this person might be saying about you when you walk away.  I guarantee that if a person is talking about one person behind their back, they will talk about everyone behind their back – including you!  Just a little something to keep in mind when you begin to participate in this denigrating conversation.  Just a word of advice – you can take it or leave it.

In the end, I will say that you cannot stop negative people from spreading their gossip and rumors.  All you can do is know your own truth!  Know that you have tried to live the best and most positive life that you can!  It might hurt you to know that someone you care about listens and believes what another has to say, but in the end, it is not a commentary on who you are, but on who these other people are deep down.  Remember those words!! It is NOT about you!

It’s just me and my opinion!

Have a great day!